A Child's Advocate: Communication Tests

Sunday, March 25, 2012

Communication Tests

I was very surprised to find out that my husband and my friend scored me so high on the communication aggressiveness scale. I scored myself as a 49 and they scored me as 67 and 62, respectively. To be more aggressive isn't what I was so amazed about, but rather those scores mean that I have found a happy balance in hearing the message, gaining an opinion, and attacking the facts instead of the person I am talking to. I was really thinking that I may receive an even higher score (think in the red zone) from my husband who I seem to naturally have arguments and debates with. :)

I also was humbled to find that all three of us placed me into the Group 1 category of listening which was the people-oriented category. I was able to see that they see me as an empathetic and kind listener.

I feel these qualities will allow me to be able to understand and be sympathetic with children and families. I also feel that I will be able to resolve issues quickly by attacking only the facts made in conversations, and also that I do not attack the person talking to me. I never have any intention of hurting the feelings or the character of the person I am talking to.

This was a good assignment and an eye opener. I’d like to take more tests like this in the future.

2 comments:

AnonymousMarch 25, 2012 at 3:59 PM
Tina,
Wasn't this interesting to do these evaluations about ourselves? I found that my husband and co-workers don't think too differently than I think of myself. Reading that they found you as sympathetic and a kind listener did not surprise me, you have always been very supportive in these classes and observant of positive behavior in your colleagues in this program. Thank you!
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UnknownMarch 25, 2012 at 7:01 PM
Tina,

I understand what you saying, my assessments indicated that I am more likely to hurt someone's feelings too. Which I havent hurt anyones feelings that I know of, I just have to be more mindful of what I say (verbal and nonverbal ques).
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Kathy- A friend of my mother's, she was and still is someone who tells it like it is. She would never hide anything about the truth to me and she was comical in telling it. If I had a question, Kathy had a straightforward answer. Still to this day Kathy will not hesitate to give meaningful opinions and life lessons to me. I don't call her enough, but I do think of her constantly especially when life throws me a curve ball and I make some kind of joke out of it!
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